Balance Is a Waste of Time


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Today, at work, I was made to think about balance as I was chatting with a work friend. It is my daughter’s 13th birthday today and I was feeling very much of two minds about leaving work early to celebrate it with my new teen. My wise friend then said…”Go home early. It’s all about the balance Agnes.” And then I replied, “True.. it’s just that sometimes I feel I am about to fall off the wire”. Do you feel this way? That life is a tightrope we must constantly navigate or else… horror of horrors… we’ll fall?

The good ending to the story is that yes, I did leave work earlier than usual and ended up spending a fantastic girly afternoon with my not-so-little one. But it made me think about the nature of balance. The word itself implies a constant activity to stay on track. Balance can imply “falling off” at some point if we fail to stay upright. No wonder why we feel restless and guilty all the time!

“Work-life balance was a mistake from the start. Because we don’t really want balance. We want satisfaction.”—Matthew Kelly, author

Balance is a sticky subject among many people. We have careers, partners, children, family commitments, charity work, classes, hobbies, worship time—plus, big desires to improve our health. How can one possibly balance so many things?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret here: We can’t.


Balance. Is It A Myth?

“Harmony” is an easier goal than balance.

Harmony means everything is co-existing in a spirit of cooperation. But whatever you want to call it —harmony, balance, or “fitting it all in”— there is a secret to doing more of what we want and less of what we don’t want. And I’ve learned it the long hard way.

There is no one secret formula to harmony, but the closest I’ve found is by asking myself this one question: Is This The Best Use Of My Time Right Now?

If not, I let it go. Sometimes it’s dishes, sometimes it’s laundry. Sometimes it’s the cleaning. Or yet another meetup that I really did not have the energy for that day….Be brutal with the letting go. It really is Okay.

And at the end of it all, Be Still. Because in stillness, in quiet, we can create true space. And in that space, we can feel Harmony. We can feel that we fit into our own life. We can feel blessed.

Ready to dive in and make a few changes? Give these tips a try and see how much more harmonious your life can be. No balance required.

Are you curious about how to harmonize your health goals? How to fit wellness into your busy schedule? Let’s talk :) Schedule an initial complimentary consultation with me today—or pass this offer on to someone you care about!

Agnes x

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2 Comments on Balance Is a Waste of Time

  1. Nanine Iengo
    December 11, 2013 at 2:42 am (5 years ago)

    Very much enjoyed your article–though what drew me in was that I disagreed at first with the heading. Turns out, I after reading it you are spot on. Balance isn’t what it’s all about—thanks!

    • applebiteswholisticnutrition
      December 14, 2013 at 9:33 am (5 years ago)

      Thanks Nanine, am glad it resonated with you. :)


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